心语03

Being female tells me that I am given the right to be a feminist;

Not for you to tell me whether or not I have reached your expectation for being feminine.

-Ban Sasha

身为女性，是我争取女权的资格；

不是你衡量我女人味的权柄。

-文雪

My blood was boiling towards those foolishness and uneducated. I was angry, but I regret not, for holding back my anger, regaining my peace, took some time to ponder, made some arrangements to my thoughts, lastly presenting as this article that I am currently writing.

The purpose of this write up is not to shame or offend anyone who somehow appear to be part of the characters of the story or being a reader of the text.

I just hope to create awareness, insights or message for the readers of my writings; also to let those who are able to relate gain encouragement and accountability, knowing that you are not alone; even if there is no one, at least I have allowed myself to release my emotions and anger in a healthy and effective way.

那天的我，真是一肚子气！气那愚昧，气那无知。气，但不后悔自己把情绪先压着，不鲁莽，思考与整理一番后再抒发。写这一篇的意义不是在于想得罪或诋毁任何故事里的人物，或读者；只是希望这篇写作能为读者的心开启一个新的认知，让那些在努力为着自己为这世界的进步出着微博而不简单之力的人们得到有所鼓励；即使没人看，我至少为我自己做了一个有意义的抒发。

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Feminism, it is not any new concept or movement. Since history, cases and scenarios about gender inequality has been appearing, and so lead such a title to arise –'Feminist'. The meaning and perspective towards feminism has been transforming ongoingly, however, the core of it remains –being female, should not be the reason for someone to be devalued.

女权主义不是一件新的实事，更不是一个新的概念。就因为有史以来女性所遭遇的不公与压迫， 燃起了所谓的 ‘女权主义者’。虽然跟着时代转变，女权主义包含了不同诠释与定义，但中心点任然不变 –身为女性， 不是被贬值的理由。

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It was an exciting Friday afternoon, although universities' clubs and societies could not gather physically due to the pandemic, my club organized a Christmas party via Zoom. The agenda was presented with much delight, there were fun ice-breaking games, sharing, chit-chatting, and costume showcasing! Speaking of costume showcasing, it was a fun activity where participants will appear at the Zoom Meeting according to the dress-code mentioned in the invitation, and the dress-code of the day was 'outfit that best describes yourself'. I was overjoyed and excited for the activity, but never did I expect that I would feel pissed during the moment.

那天，是一个热闹的星期五， 虽然因疫情的关系大学社团没办法聚集，但我们成功举办了一个Zoom圣诞派对，行程排得还挺不赖哦，有游戏，分享，互动及服装展示！说到这部分，所谓服装展示也就是登入的人们要根据派对的着装要求，而当天的服装主题则是‘穿出你自己’。 心情原本是充满着兴奋与愉悦，但就在这挺有趣的活动之下，我被气到了！

The costume showcase activity required each participant to present and explain about how the interesting outfits that they had chosen represented their own unique and meaningful identity. It was my turn after a few had spoken, I was wearing a lovely pink dress and a pink hat, yeap... it was literally pink to the max, if you were wondering. Pink has been labeled as a colour that represents ‘female’, please do not get me wrong, the intention was never in attendance to demonstrate gender discrimination or any stereotyping, I too do have a lot of male friends that fancy towards the colour pink, I was just trying to mention a scenario that is somewhat general in my own cultural context. So, due to the scenario, I wore a set of pink to represent that I am a feminist, therefore when it was my turn to speak, I spoke confidently and without hesitant, "I am a feminist".

服装展示的环节让每个参加者都能一 一解说自己的服装， 诠释个个身上有趣的搭配是怎么象征着‘自己’。 不多人发言后，就轮到我了， 我当天穿了一身粉红色的连衣裙，跟一顶粉红色的帽子，还真有粉到一个极点哦，哈哈。多数人都为粉红色定了一个标签 –女生。请别会错意，我并不是在性别歧视；也不是在提倡颜色须有性别灌输；我身边也有很多热爱粉红色的男性朋友，上句只是在讲述一个我常见的形式。也因此在当天穿了一身多数人定义为‘女’的颜色，来象征了我是一名女权主义者。所以，轮到我发表时，我毫无犹豫的用英语说了“I am a feminist （我是一名女权主义者）”。

Never did I imagine, I would receive such "responses" from the crowd, I classified the responses into two categories: [1] Misunderstood, plus disagree [2] Misunderstood, but agreeing to what was being misunderstood to be what is right.

出乎我意料，当这一句一被说出，尽然引起了纷纷“回应”，我把种种“回应”分成了两个帮派：【1】会错意，然后不认同的 【2】会错意，但却认同自己所领错的是对的。两各帮派拥有一个共同点 -会错意。

Category 1:

This is a situation where most of them misunderstood the meaning of the word 'Feminist', and mistaken it to be a synonym of 'Feminine'. Therefore, they responded in disagreements, questions, and even sarcasms in a joking manner. Those who know me surely acknowledge the great volume of my voice, hence due to the recognition, the majority will think that I am not someone that fits to be 'feminine'. I was triggered by the fact of the misunderstanding between 'being a feminist' and 'being feminine', more so "who are you to judge and label?" I whispered within my bones, and "how can you be in this level of unawareness, even to the extent you mistaken the meaning?" again I questioned with exclamation in my heart. However, with the intention of not wanting to ruined the atmosphere of the party, and convincing myself that it was just a "misunderstanding", I withheld my anger and replied politely "Ehem, what I meant was I am a feminist, not I am feminine, meaning at necessary moments speaking up for women's rights". "Phew... Dark clouds were cleared" I thought to myself, but I was wrong as the party continued.

帮派一：

这情况仅仅就是他们把女权主义 (feminist) 诠释为女人味 (feminine)。而他们所“回应”的，是凭着对我的认识而反应出了质疑，反对，及带点调戏。因为多数认识我的人对我‘嗓门大’是会有一定的了解，而自然因此认为我没有“女人味”。也就因此，在把 ‘Feminist’ 理解成 ‘Feminine’ 的状况下，他们对我回应了所谓 “不认同”。我当下不想破坏派对气氛，压抑了愤怒，说到 “我指的是‘Feminist’, 不是‘Feminine’，在必要当下争取女权的意思”。 然后，派对延续，直到帮派二出现。

Category 2:

The next girl was up to showcase her outfit after my speech. Sorry if this appears to be ill at ease for me to categorize just her into a specific category according to the story. Hopefully not, but perhaps they were some that thought the same as her but did not come to my notice. Although with similar headlines, the difference between category 2 and 1 would be this category did not just simply mistaken the surface definition of the word itself, however having a wrong perception towards the responsibility and characteristic of the title 'feminist', thinking that 'feminists should or naturally be feminine'.

The girl mentioned is a person with an extraordinary sense of fashion, jersey and flip flops would be her common go-to, her hair was coolly undercut, she seldom or never according to my knowledge wears dresses, makeup and so on. Although her fashion sense would be a complete different from mine, but I am never the sort of person that is against such put together, as mentioned I am a feminist, I am always firmly rooting for the fact that women has the right to make a choice, including in the aspect of fashion. Therefore, as all those while I thought that this girl; a person who was not affected by the voices of the world's stereotype; dresses as she pleases, would be someone who understood the truth that 'women have the right to access freedom of choice and opinion in their life'. I was wrong again, her speech started with an unexpected opening: "I am different from the previous speaker, I dislike being feminine, I believe you could tell based on my outfit.". My eyes were wide opened, at that moment, I thought that she had mistaken the meaning of the word feminist as the previous category. Therefore, I kindly responded: "Excuse me, perhaps I did not manage to make myself clear enough just now, what I meant was 'feminist' not 'feminine'," with the letter 'st' and 'ne' I placed my stress, continued: "meaning I support women's right". Her reply towards this was as if lightning struck my head, she said: "That's too girly still, I just can't agree". I could not control my brain from yelling "What do you mean it is too girly? What do you mean you can not agree? Aren't you supporting that women have the right of freedom as you are dressing according to your wish? Why do you even think that feminist is someone girly or must be girly?" I clench my fist invisibly, keeping all those anger being heard by just me.

帮派二：

我发言完毕， 轮到下一位女士述说服装。而非常抱歉，我把她独自一人归类于帮派二。 帮派二与帮派一不同，她并不是把字面上的含义给误解，她是把身份的特色与责任给理解错误，并觉得她自己理解错误的是在我身上所见的。帮派二认为的是 ‘女权主义者， 就自然该有女人味’。

那女士的穿着风格一向来偏随性，拥有这一头帅气的短发，不那么喜爱穿裙子。 身为一名女权主义者的我，从不排斥这样的打扮，因为我认为女性任何事情方面，包括时尚，应用有选择权。我原以为那个不顾外界眼光的她是个理解‘女性配得拥有自由活出自己’这道理。谁知，她的述说是这么的一个开头 “我与上一位不一样，我不是一位什么有女人味的人，看我穿着就知道。”我听到这句时，愣了一下，原以为她与帮派一相似，误解了‘Feminist’ 的字面意思。我便亲切的回应“不好意思，可能我刚刚没解释清楚，我说的是 ‘Feminist’ 不是 ‘Feminine’，讲述自己支持女生配的自由与权力的意思”。她对我这一番解释的回应更是出乎我意料，她说 “那太娇气了，我可能没办法”。我不受控的在脑子里怒喊着“什么叫做你没办法， 你不是很认同女生是有自由成为自己想要的样子吗 ??!!”, “你为什么会觉得女生一定要所谓‘女人味’，才是有女权呢？！”，“就算你是真的不理解‘feminist’的含义，我不是解释了吗？！”

I was not angry towards the people; neither was I angry towards myself being placed in disagreement and provoked, I was angry towards such a mind-set, such an attitude, such blindness... The uneducated caused me much anger, the unconcerned caused me more! It is fine if one temporarily does not know, but it is absolutely unacceptable to me when one already knows but chooses to ignore or remain as the old ways.

Please allow me to speak courageously and be brutally honest, the unconcerned and unaware derive from a selfish heart, an uncaring mind. Just because one has found a piece of "comfortable enough" or "got used to it" in his or her part of the world, hence closes his or her own eyes towards the corners of the earth that are still screaming and hoping for a change!

Such anger of mine occurred as simply complicated, an anger without hatreds, however with much disappointments, worries and sorrows. Disappointments stirred up from the wonders of mine, wondering how much more is needed, or would it ever reach sufficient for the world to be transformed. Worries and sorrows cater towards the future that we are making with our own hands for the generations that are yet to take their place.

我对事不对人的在生气，气的不是我被讽刺与误解。我气的是那态度，气那理念，气那盲目… 我气那多数的不理解，但我更气那少有的理解了但不理会！请允许我斗胆地说, 不理会的心乃是来自与自私，不够关怀；就因为自己从这世界中寻得了所谓的‘习惯’，就不睁开眼去发现世界的‘需被改变’！这样的气有所复杂，没有恨，但有些无奈，又有些担忧与心疼。无奈在于到底还要怎样世界才能明白，担心与心疼在于真的不晓得今天的孩子们会被交托于一个怎样的未来。

I remember a video I watched on British Vogue channel about a year ago, where Emma Watson was sharing, could not remember how the sentences exactly were, but it was roughly about the existence of different perspectives towards feminism, and there are different types of feminists if it was mentioned in such a way.

Although many perspectives enter under the umbrella of feminism, one of my standpoint that existed rather strongly would be I believe women deserve freedom and power, they are valuable and worthy of respect. One can be and should be passionate about their own gender, this should not be bound as reckless but rather reasonable and normal.

In all situations that a woman is at, regardless whether is her dream; a life that she decided to pursue; fashion and style; character; appearance; and so on, all these should not be the reason for the world to judge or evaluate; nor being components applied with personal rubrics to measure her identity of being a female. To all the dear sisters that are reading this, no matter you are a full time mother or a company's CEO; a firefighter or a florist; feeling most fabulous in heels and dresses or sweatpants and sneaker; participating in dance or a football team; nature of character being gentle or outspoken, in whatever distinct a woman has chosen or gifted to be, should not cause her "female-ness" to change, none of those should cause a woman to be viewed as more "lady-like" or less "lady-like"! "This is how you should/should not be, because you are a girl", such a statement or perception should not exist! Gender, or according to context –being female, is not supposed to be a restriction, but an identity to be proud of.

Women being viewed higher than men was never the intention or focus of my message, what I am rooting on is that every individual is purposeful and meaningful, therefore all should be treated and respected equally. Hence, women have rights.

女权主义拥有着种种角度与诠释，之中我认同的点是女性是配得自由的，配得权力，配得价值，配得被看重。热爱自己的性别，是一个理所当然的坚定。一个女生的理想生活；穿着风格；社会地位；个性与样态；等等，都不能是一个让世界拿来定义，衡量你的女人味，判断你身为一名女士的资格的理由。不管在读着这篇的女士们是一名全职妈妈或是一名CEO；喜欢穿连衣裙，高跟鞋或运动裤，球鞋；才艺是跳芭蕾或是踢足球；性格比较温和或比较有影响力，在此或之外没有任何一点可以让社会去断定一名女士是 比较 “女生” 或 比较 “没那么女生”！没有所谓的‘你不能（这样）/你必须（这样），因为你是女的’，性别不是一种拘束，而是一种骄傲。我想倡导的不是女性应被视为更强，而是每个身份都有存在的重要性与价值，然而这价值必须被公平对待与看重，而女权是女性应有的。

As if the movie Little Women, the story about the four sisters with different dreams, talents and character -Meg, Jo, Beth and Amy.

Meg as the eldest sister in the story. She is kind and responsible, interested in acting. However, she made the choice to value love, having her own family, and pursued a life of being a full-time house wife. It was mentioned by her that, ‘Just because my dreams are different than yours, doesn’t mean that mine aren't important.’

Second eldest, Jo, was perceived as a "tomboy", an amazing author, quick to speak and rise in temper. A great saying of hers, 'I intend to make my own way in the world', the words reflected some sort of disappointment and disagreement towards the idea of marriage in that specific era, Jo's utterance presented a believe, a voice, a mind-set that the world should have but seldom occur in that era –the value of women exists within themselves, not by whether they are married, nor depended on whom they marry.

Second youngest, Beth, loves playing the piano and plays well. She is rather shy, and does not cope well with socializing. It was shown that Beth is somewhat different from her sisters Jo and Amy, her dreams were rather not so enormous. Hence, even being greatly gifted in musicality, she decided to keep her music private.

Amy, being the youngest sister, loves to paint, dreamed to be an artist. She is a girl that adores visual beauty, greatly passionate about her dream, but also decided to have a clear cut with her ambition of being an artist. She said, 'I want to be great, or nothing. I won’t be a common-place dauber, so I don’t intend to try anymore'. Amy also uttered, 'I think we have some power over who we love', this very film demonstrated the lack or even none regarding rights and authority, basic chance to make a choice in womanhood, including even the context of marriage and love. That specific quote reminded me that no matter what environment I am being placed in, how the "norms" of the society mistreated me for my identity of being a female, I must never forget and never should I allow the world to rob my value and dignity, even if my perception may appear to be different, not acceptable or welcomed by the others, does not mean that the thoughts of mine need to be ignored, nor should my voice go unheard.

This remarkable film added quite an affirmation to my belief, all women are different, but they are all special and valuable, no one is more a 'female' than the other, or more worthy of ‘power’ than the other, or greater and more important than the other. All four sisters in Little Women are different from one another, but share the same identity –female. As simple as being who they are, qualifies them to have equal rights to express, persist, request, and strive for a change. Every woman is uniquely beautiful, deserves to have dreams, to be given an equal chance to try, equal power to make a choice; choice to take in or pursue; and even choice to reject or defer.

Moreover, The Queen's Gambit nonetheless contributed some insights towards my personal knowledge regarding being a feminist. As shown in the movie, although chess was being perceived as a masculine game, but the main character, Harmon never gave in to the idea that she could not be successful in such a game that she favors just because she is 'just a girl'. A famous quote mentioned by Harmon in one of the series, 'Chess isn't always competitive. Chess can also be beautiful'. Within those words, I drew out such comprehension, 'isn't always competitive', because there is never or should never be a situation needed for a woman to prove that "she can too" because of her gender, 'can' or 'cannot' has nothing to do with one's gender. Thus, in all things, an equal chance for "beautiful" to take place has to occur.

Women have rights, should have and supposed to have! If you have not perceived it that way, maybe your perception needs to be educated! Just like a quote from the film, Enola Holmes, ' Maybe, it is the world that needs a change'.

就比如《Little Women》这部电影。里头四姐妹 –Meg， Jo， Beth， 和 Amy 各有千秋。大姐，Meg， 个性善良有责任感，兴趣是当一名演员，最终选择了爱情，可说是选择了爱情过与面包。她电影里的金句， ‘我的梦想虽与你不同，但不代表他们不重要’。二姐，Jo，被称“男人婆”，是一名作家，脾气急躁，性格强势，她说‘我打算在这世界上创自己的路’，这句话反映了那年代女性对结婚的一种无奈与感慨，Jo 的那句精华呈现了一种信念 –女性的价值是存在于本身，不是因嫁不嫁得出或嫁给了谁来定义的。三姐，Beth，喜爱弹钢琴，性格害羞，不太擅长社交，与姐妹Jo和 Amy不同，没有激烈的梦想，向往朴实低调，即使赋予着非凡的音乐细胞，她宁可把自己的音乐化为私藏。Amy，小妹，喜爱绘画，想成为一名著名的画家，是一个注重视觉美的一个女孩，对于理想充满了热诚，但最后也起了放弃当画家的决定。放弃绘画的当儿，她说了这么一句经典语录 –‘我要就成为‘最伟大’，要不就成为‘无’；因为我不甘愿平庸，所以选择了放弃’。Amy也在电影中说了‘我觉得我们都该有权力选择自己的爱情’，这部电影反射了那年代女性在很多方面少有甚至没有选择权，包括自己的爱情，这一句让我学会了不管生存于那个时代，无论时代的习俗与日常是如何亏待你，你心中的价值与坚定不能屈服给周围的影响与压迫，即使你的立场于他人格格不入，不代表你应该被忽略， 应该被消音。这部电影，让我的坚信多了一份肯定，即使理想，个性，外貌各有不同，但没有谁比谁更‘女性’或谁比谁更配得拥有‘权力’或谁比谁更来得重要及伟大，《Little Women》里的四姐妹虽不同，但身为‘女性’这身份一致，配得相同资格去为‘女权’感慨，坚持，与争取。每一位女性都是独特的，有魅力的，有资格去梦想，去尝试，去选择，选择去接受，甚至是拒绝。

《The Queen’s Gambit》这部剧，也闪烁着女性拥有权力与众不同，就算西洋棋被大众认为是阳性比赛，但女主角Harmon不曾觉得身为一名女性可以约束她在这款赛式中取得胜利，被视为优秀。Harmon也再电影里说了那么一句，‘西洋棋不一定要充满竞争，它也可以是美丽的’。在这句话里，我体会到了‘不一定要充满竞争’，因为根本没有必要去证明所谓的“女性也可以”，行不行根本与是男或女无关，而每件事本就该有平等机会让它拥有‘美丽的优胜’。

女性本就该被平等对待，若今天的你没有这么一个眼界，那也许你的眼界处在一个欠教育的情况当下！犹如《Enola Holmes》这部电影里所说的, ‘或许，该改变的是这个世界’。

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Such a perception was also much influenced by my faith and belief. Of course, I understand not everyone is a Christian, so if you have the thought of skipping this paragraph, you may feel free to do so. However, I still do hope that we can all read with an open heart.

在此，我也想从我信仰的角度抒发我对于女权这观念，当然倘若你不是一名基督徒，或你抗拒有关宗教信仰的内容，你可以选择省略这一段。但我依旧希望读者能以一个敞开的心来阅读。

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.

–1John 3:1

你 看 父 賜 給 我 們 是 何 等 的 慈 愛 ， 使 我 們 得 稱 為 神 的 兒 女 ； 我 們 也 真 是 他 的 兒 女 。

–約翰前書 3:1

And if children, then heirs –heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.

–Romans 8:17

既是儿女，便是后嗣，就是神的后嗣，和基督同做后嗣。如果我们和他一同受苦，也必和他一同得荣耀。

–罗马书 8:17

But we are citizens of heaven, where the Lord Jesus Christ lives. And we are eagerly waiting for him to return as our Savior.

–Philippians 3:20

我们却是天上的国民，并且等候救主，就是主耶稣基督，从天上降临。

–腓立比书 3:20

In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

–Romans 8:37

然而，靠着爱我们的主，在这一切的事上已经得胜有余了。

–罗马书 8:37

You are my friends if you do what I command you.

–John 15:14

你们若遵行我所吩咐的，就是我的朋友了。

–约翰福音 15:14

The revelation of Jesus Christ, which God gave him to show to His servants the things that must soon take place. He made it known by sending his angel to his servant John, …

–Revelation 1:1

耶稣基督的启示，就是神赐给他，叫他将必要快成的事指示他的众仆人。

–启示录 1:1

Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.

–Ephesians 6:11

要穿戴神所赐的全副军装，就能抵挡魔鬼的诡计

–以弗所书 6:11

I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in me he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples.

–John 15:5-8

我是葡萄树，你们是枝子。常在我里面的，我也常在他里面，这人就多结果子；因为离了我，你们就不能做什么。人若不常在我里面，就像枝子丢在外面枯干，人拾起来扔在火里烧了。你们若常在我里面，我的话也常在你们里面，凡你们所愿意的，祈求，就给你们成就。你们多结果子，我父就因此得荣耀，你们也就是我的门徒了。

–约翰福音 15:5-8

But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

–1Peter 2:9

唯有你们是被拣选的族类，是有君尊的祭司，是圣洁的国度，是属神的子民，要叫你们宣扬那召你们出黑暗、入奇妙光明者的美德。

–彼得前书 2:9

Summoning the crowd along with His disciples, He said to them, “If anyone wants to be My follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow Me.

–Mark 8:34

于是叫众人和门徒来，对他们说：“若有人要跟从我，就当舍己，背起他的十字架来跟从我。

–马可福音 8:34

God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.

–John 4:24

神是灵，所以敬拜祂的必须用心灵和诚实敬拜他。

–约翰福音 4:24

I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.

–John 15:9

我爱你们，正如父爱我一样；你们要常在我的爱里。

–约翰福音 15:9

In all of the precious and amazing titles the Lord uses to address His people, containing God's 'Children'; 'Heirs'; 'Citizens'; 'Conquerors'; 'Friends'; 'Servants'; 'Warriors' that need to put on the armor of God; 'Disciples'; 'Chosen Ones'; 'People'; 'Royal Priesthood'; 'Nation'; 'Followers'; 'Worshippers'; 'Lover', and many more, God never exclude female in all of these contexts, neither did He count women any lesser or another level lower than male. There is no such a thing, 'I do not deserve, because I am female'. Female is as equal as male in the eyes of God, fairly created; chosen; loved; and blessed. Recorded in John 3:16 'For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that all who believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life'. As well as Romans 10:13 'Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved'. The gospel is not restricted to only male or female, nor having male first and female second, not tied down to a specific age; skin color, appearance or social status, it is equally welcoming and important to 'All' and 'Everyone'. The love of God reaches out to you and me.

在这些众多上帝所恩赐的身份当中，无论是上帝的‘孩子’，‘继承人’，‘子民’， ‘胜利者’，‘朋友’，‘仆人’，要穿上上帝盔甲的‘勇士’，‘信徒’，‘卷选者’，‘被君尊的’，‘圣洁的国人’，‘跟随者’，‘敬拜者’，‘爱人’，等等，上帝都不曾格局女性在外，或在性别上安排先后。没有所谓的 ‘因为我是女生，所以不符合’。 女性在神的眼中是平等的被创造，卷选，爱，与祝福的。约翰福音3:16 记载着 ‘神 愛 世 人 ， 甚 至 將 他 的 獨 生 子 賜 給 他 們 ， 叫 一 切 信 他 的 ， 不 至 滅 亡 ， 反 得 永 生 ’。罗马书10：13也讲到‘因 為 凡 求 告 主 名 的 ， 就 必 得 救。’神指的是‘一切’–英语版‘All’，还有‘凡’ –‘’Everyone’, 福音没有限制于男性或女性，也没有特定年龄或皮肤颜色，不分地位及身份，神的大爱与恩典囊括你和我。

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'The future is in our hands' from Enola Holmes. Hence, a better future begins with you and I, so stop being selfish! If you are extremely blessed, living in an environment where there is mutual respect and care; being able to participate in social interaction regardless what identity you are carrying; given equal opportunity to pursue education; having the freedom to pursue the career and dreams of your choice; holding hand in hand with the person you truly loved even being able to lose nothing when you stay single, remember, not every part of the world is as fortunate as you are; they might not have basic freedom or rights due to their gender, be careful with the jokes and ridicules you make; it may be a weapon that directly or indirectly harm the lives of others. So do not allow your ignorance and selfishness to stagnate or decelerate the progress of the world's improvement.

更好的未来从你我出发，别自私了好吗？如果你很庆幸，处于一个互相尊重与关爱的环境；有机会不分你我的参与社交；拥有平等的求学机会；拥有自由从事自己喜欢的行业；牵着手的是你爱的人或不会因为单身而不幸福，要切记，世界上还有很多人没办法那么庆幸；她们可能因为性别或其它原因没有基本的自由与人权，要知道一个无意且无知的嘲讽可能在间接性的对他人残杀，所以别让自己的无知与自私缓慢了这世界的进步。

Lastly, I would love to tell all the women, my sisters out there, you are the pride of the world. Even though sometimes your world may not make you feel that way, still you must never stop being proud of yourself from the bottom of your heart! As it was mentioned, 'your existence is worthy of favor and adoration!' (Sandy Wu, 2020). No matter who you are, your life is made to be purposeful and meaningful.

最后，想和所有女士们，我的姐妹们说，你们是世界的骄傲，即使你的世界可能不让你那样觉得，但是你必须打从心底为自己感到骄傲！借用 Sandy Wu 的一本书的书名 ‘我的存在，本来就值得青睐’， 不管你是谁，你的生命本来就充满意义与精彩。